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Because of her, I was Victimized!
Even though it's the truth
as I see it, this is my story about being victimized: My wife whom I will call “R” filed
a restraining order against me in May 2005. She decided that the grass was greener on the other side and decided to
go out with some guy one night. (Let’s just call him “D”). Well these two went out on the town,
drinking and having a good time. My wife of 11 years and “D” didn't come home until 5:15 in the
morning and I was very upset with my wife, of course, because
she went out with this person...
How should I have felt? After all,
my wife was out all night with another man and I didn’t know where they were or what they were doing;
God only knows!
Earlier that day, we had a heated argument before I went
to work. I was due to punch in at 5:30 am. While at work, the next thing I knew, I was being served with a restraining
order, placed against me by my wife.
She had her new found lover sitting in the van, with my daughter
as well. I was forced to move into a hotel. Meanwhile I had been receiving phone calls from my wife explaining how she
had made a horrible mistake and was very sorry.
Even though the restraining order was still active, on the
fourth of July, I moved home to be with my wife and children. With
the love I have for her and our two children I forgave and forgot. What a fool I was and still am.
As I said, I moved back home on July fourth 2005. Things
went well for just about a month or two. Then she was back to her old self again. What exactly
do I mean by that? What I mean is...she went back to abusing and drinking alcohol with her prescription
medication again. It wasn't every night but it was surely enough to upset most anyone!
I would come home from work and find her either passed
out or really trashed out of her mind. The minute I say something about her using, she wants to get irate with me and
curse and cause me trouble. The next thing I know, the police are at y door. They ask ME to leave,
not her. She's the one that's under the influence, not me. So what do I do ...I leave and wait for her to
be passed out from her stupor. I would come home from work and wonder if she was drunk, drinking, pilling
or all three. It got to a point where I didn't want to even go home anymore but I did because I have two children, a
boy 9 and a daughter 7. They are very wonderful kids and very well mannered thanks to my wife and I
both taking part in their life - teaching them compassion, respect, manners, etc. Well you know...all the good things
we all want our children to be.
Like I said before... I forgave and forgot. Jan.13th
2006 she filed another restraining order against me. This time she managed to have me arrested and
charged with battery - also known as touch and strike. She had a neighbor as a witness to lie for her to say I did hit
her. She also managed to brainwash my children to say that I hit her. She showed up at court with a bruise on her arm
just below her shoulder saying this is what I did to her.
At this time I was incarcerated. I went to court
for the restraining order. She had a chance to tell her story, and the first words out of her mouth were lies. I
lost my head and yelled at her... why can't you ever tell the truth for once in your life you miserable lying bitch.
I hope you die and burn in hell for this. Well the judge didn't like that so he ordered a psychiatric evaluation on
me and I remained in jail. She also told him that I had a
problem with alcohol and drugs. This was another lie. She would and will do anything to keep me away from my kids
and/or in jail.
She has told me
and others many times that she would hurt herself and say I did it. Unfortunately I can't find anyone to come to court for me and tell the judge this. So I'm left with taking the charge of
touch and strike.
The state isn't offering any sort of pleas so I have to go to trial with this case. I have no evidence of my innocence to help me out of this accusation.
I'm forced to go to trial and if I lose I go to jail for
a year - no questions asked.
Her case is cut and dry.
If the state was offering a plea, I might just be better off taking the charge...
Like I said: I have no witnesses nor any evidence to prove
my innocence. I'm looking at carrying this charge with
me for rest of my life no matter what I say or do.
Something has
to be done with these women who have victimized us guys who haven't done
anything wrong. I wish someone could give me some insight into my situation because
I'm at wit's end. The first restraining order said "he punched me in the face several times." Now then... If I was to punch my wife or any other woman, or a man for that matter, in the face several times. I would surely leave some sort of
a mark on them. Wouldn't you agree?
This time she said I punched her in the face but showed up
in court with a picture of a bruise on her arm between her
shoulder and elbow. My wife is anemic: Meaning she bruises very easily due to low iron in the blood. So it wouldn't
be hard for her to hurt herself enough to get a bruise. In fact, all
she has to do is bump into something or someone and she'll be bruised. The kids have accidentally hit into her the wrong
way and bruised her. Even when she and I are together anywhere in the house
and bump into one another, whether it be work or play, she
is bound to get a bruise.
When we were in court and I lost my head and yelled at my wife... the judge ordered me to attend anger management classes, which I have completed and paid in full. All I
have left is drug and alcohol classes and they are also paid
in full. The next step will undoubtedly be for me to
attend parenting classes, so I can see my children.
I
haven 't seen them since January 13th, 2006. I just
know the judge will order it. Especially if my "wife" has any
say in the matter. Also, I have been equipped with a GPS monitor.
I have been placed into a halfway house program. I
am only allowed to go to work and back. That is it!
Each time I leave for work and come back, I have to go to the office to have
the management sign me out and sign me in. I'm not to make any contact with my
"wife" or my children. And just so everyone knows the facts: my daughter has leukemia.
I am not allowed in any way to know about my kids health.
I have no idea if she is sick or healthy. But of course
I worry about my son’s health as well and how they are both
doing in school, as well as having another man play the father role. I am a self healer and know that time heals all wounds but I cannot see a light at the end of the tunnel.
These are all facts in my life, as I have experienced it.
I wrote this story for your thoughts as well as any comments
you may have on this subject.
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